August 7, 2010

Since birth, it’s been our nature to not want to let go. Like when you put your fingers near a baby and they grab on with all their strength, not letting you pull away. Even now, letting go is one of the hardest things we go through. I’ve been surrounded by a lot of change lately, and people trying to let go, and I think we all need a little help with this. I’ve been thinking about how difficult it is when you have to let go of someone you love; leaving behind the closeness and intimacy of the relationship, all the “I love you’s” and the kisses. But I’ve been looking back to my past, which is something I’ve always preferred not to do, and I realized how many people I’ve already let go. People I left for my own sanity, people I’ve drifted from, people who’ve cast me aside. And after the fact, when you’re looking back, you realize how true it is that they’re not in your life for a reason. But they were there at that time for a reason. They taught you lessons, made you stronger, or at the least gave you good memories. But after they’ve come in, they’ve done their job and it’s time for them to go, it hurts to let them go. But it’s part of life, it moves fast and you need to keep up with it. You have to keep moving on just to survive, and the process of letting go is a major part of it. So when the time comes that you need to let someone go; a friend, a boyfriend, someone who’s moved away or deceased, just remember that they’ve made their appearance in your life and helped make you who you are today. And they have to leave, simply so that more people can come in your life and make an impact, and eventually leave. They won’t always leave, but going into every new relationship, it’s to be expected. Don’t keep trying to hold on, it’ll only prolong the pain. If they’re not there, they’re not going to be. It’s the way things work, but it’s not something to get upset about. At one point, they were there. And that’s all that matters.